The first key to a living a life of joy is a general key. The first key can be dangerous if you do not take responsibility for your life. You must believe that you are your own guru. Please read the four previous blogs if you have not read them.
The first Joyous Expansion key to living a joyful life is: Find Your Placebo.
The placebo effect is used in the medical field. It has been shown that some people are able to cure themselves with the power of their beliefs. Some people are so trusting that a doctor can give them a pill and tell them it will cure their headache, they are able to cure their headache even if the pill is a sugar pill Researchers testing new drugs have to test whether or not their drug works better than people deciding to feel better by eating sugar pills. Unlike medicines, the only long term side effect to finding your placebo is a better quality of sex, a more joyous life and more love in your relationships.
When it comes to happiness, what if everything is a placebo? In my studies I haven’t found anything that has worked with all people. The trick is finding the right placebo that works for you.
We live in an age where there is more to read about living a happy life than ever. There are hundreds if not thousands of books on meditations, techniques, and inspirational stories. Everyone has access to therapists, life coaches, acupuncturists, massage therapists, and spa treatments..
Click on the website http://www.time-for-time.com/howold.htm. Enter in your age and see how old you are in days. That is how many months, weeks, days, hours, minutes and seconds on this earth that you haven’t been living up to your potential. This is the time you have lived without finding the placebos in your life that bring you to a happier state of being.
Ten years from now you will live 127 months, 521 weeks, 3,652 days, 87,628 hours, and 6,257,699 minutes. If you plan on living for ten more years do you want to live them with more joy and happiness or how you are at this moment?
How much time in your day do you dedicate to finding new actions, ideas, activities, books, movies and seminars that will allow you to live the life that you want to live?
In my time I have found many placebos that have increased the joy in my life. I have taken a few seminars from a group called Warrior Sage. I have read many books that have inspired new thoughts and have brought me new techniques to live a more inspired and joyful life. In fact, August 28 is my five year anniversary finally deciding to make finding my placebos a priority.
An important aspect of finding your placebo is discovering something that works for you. If something does not work for you, drop it and find something else. In my search, I have found techniques and books that did not sit well with me. Just because something works for someone else does not mean it will work for you. The opposite is true as well. Something that works for many people is reiki. Reiki is a spiritual practice where one receives healing from another person by having them lay their hands on them. The idea is that they are the conduit for healing energy that is coming from a loving source. The idea of healing from a loving source interested me. I went to a few classes and even some reiki circles. After trying this, I decided that it is just not for me. Reiki is a placebo for many people and I honor them for finding it. I am sure some of the placebos that I have found do not sit well with all others.
Something that has worked for me is the Emotional Freedom Technique. EFT is a therapy where you tap on certain points of your body. One of the great things about EFT is that it works for some people and is easy and free to learn. Joining a group and participating in a technique called borrowing benefits has worked wonders in my life. People who have met me in the last two years would be surprised to learn that I once disliked hugging. There was something about the closeness and the touching that bothered me. I have many therapeutic theories as to why that was the case, however knowing those theories did not help me in my desire for closeness and hugging. By tapping on my hugging with a group, I now love to hug. I believe that I am the best at giving hugs and that hugs can bring great healing in people’s lives.
Doesn’t happiness come from within?
The short answer to this question is yes. The long answer to this question is of course. Happiness is something that comes from within. One of the unfortunate parts of being human is most of us do not actually believe this. Believing that happiness comes from within is something that a lot of people understand. However, they have not put it into practice. If they did, they would be happy.
When you read something that inspires you, talk to someone who helps you or listen to an amazing audio book that changes your life, it isn’t coming from the outside. What is actually happening is for that brief moment in time you have let down the resistance to your own joy that has been inside of you all along. It is like you are in a room and the sun is shining outside. What the books did was open the drapes to let in the sunshine. The sun was shining the entire time. Believing that the book, seminar, guru, television personality, priest or therapist is the reason that you are happy is like believing that opening the drapes created the sunlight.
What if you are already happy?
Then you are in a perfect spot to keep up the momentum of happiness. Newton’s first law is the law of inertia. An object that is in motion will stay in motion. If you are already happy, why wait for something to go wrong to find a way to bring you back to happiness?
One day I got a psychic card reading for fun. One thing the psychic told me was there was a book that had a meditation for health that she found very helpful. She told me she tends to listen to it when she is sick and when she does she finds herself feeling better and more inspired to do things to change her predicament. The question that I wanted to ask her was, “Why do you wait until you are sick?” If she continued on this meditation when she was well, she will keep up the inertia and live more days of feeling well.
This is the same for you. When you are feeling happy, it is still time to find and keep on doing the actions that make you happy. Keep it up.
Only doing joyful actions when you are upset is like only servicing your car when something goes wrong. Changing the oil every three months helps prevent your car from breaking down. I would imagine that you are more important to you than your car.
Working together we will find your placebos and keep up the momentum. In fact working with me will be one of your placebos as you will feel more joyful after our session. Also I will provide homework assignments that are geared toward finding out if they are something that will bring more joy into your life. Being a person who brings joy more joy into your life is a passion of mine.
Homework of the week
Buy one book or read one article that inspires you.