OK, if you’re reading this I’m going to make some assumptions about you. I’m going
to assume that you are someone who is curious or actively seeking to better
themselves or to simply feel better in life. You likely read quotes and blogs by
people who say uplifting things or remind you to see love and beauty in situations.
Well, I’m going to offer to you the idea of being provocative. Defy everything.
Do NOT be happy if you don’t feel like. Do not find the bright side of a
situation. But do these things because that is honestly you at that moment. Look,
we are not here to please others. We are here to be ourselves. And some of us
define ourselves as: happy, active, vegan, loving, wife, sister, brother, engineer,
sloth, lazy bum, mathematically challenged…Just because one person is doing it
does not mean YOU have to.
In fact, do NOT do it unless that is you! I like my
Facebook feed to be full of positive and provocative thoughts
to help me see the day differently when I am feeling frustrated. But you know
what? On my hard and difficult days I sometimes want to punch those positive
people in the throat and say, “Yeah, easy for you to say! Today is HARD! You have
no idea.” And you’re right, they have no idea. They are just doing themselves.
That being said, I offer to you permission to be 100% authentically you every day. If you have been vegan for 183 straight days and then you need a steak…why not?! Eat steak. And then don’t feel guilty. You are just being you. Aspiring to be something like on “People’s most Excellent People List” is something I have seen on Facebook. That person is asserting their goal and good for them.
BUT I think it
is even cooler to just be you whether people en masse believe you are excellent or
not is NOT important. Awards are NOT important. IF you have any goal strive to be
authentically yourself every day. It may
cause you to be provocative and unloved one day but what does that matter if you
love yourself and those that authentically know you love you as well? It doesn’t
matter. It never matter. All that matters is you being the gift that you are to
this world and offering the different facets of that ‘you’ every day to all of us.
Jessica Gentry is a fellow Infinite Possibilities trainer.