Goals are for the Future!

As I was searching my facebook page, I came along this blog post by Erica Awakening.

http://postfeminine.com/goals/

How Goals Block Us From the Truth

What Would Happen If You Let Go of All Your Goals?

I highly recommend reading the blog post.

Here is the comment I left for her.

I love this blog post! Beautifully said. Goals are the future and they do take us away from the present. They also rarely give the level of fulfillment that people from reaching their goals. In fact, almost the first thing most people do when reaching a goal is start working on the next one. I remember once when I was talking to a client about goals. I asked her what she was going to do when she reached her goal. She replied, that she would make another goal and go for that one. It didn’t even occur to her to take time out of her day to celebrate her accomplishment. She had to look to the future once again.

I truly do love her blog post. She is right. Goals do take away from the present and gear us towards the future. Goals also create contracts of disappointment. I do not believe goal setting is wrong. I also believe that goal setting can be very beneficial. However goal setting is not the end all be all of life. To be too goal orientated will take you out of your present.

When I work with my clients, I do work with their goals. I also work with them to celebrate and appreciate the life they have. Realize that goals are there as a container, to help keep the boat steered in the right direction. Being too over goal orientated can make it so you miss the pretty scenery on the way to the goal, make you miss the abundance that is already in your life today and make it so you can be blinded to different paths that will get you amazing results.

This is an excellent example of the Joy is in the Journey. My big lesson of my life right now. To create goals, however to remove my joy from the result of the goal. Attaching that joy to the journey of working towards the goal and celebrating what I accomplished and what I learned. This is the reason I gave up my monthly challenges because that was too goal focused. I lost the forest from the trees. A great lesson of the Joy is in the Journey.

 

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  1. Brett, thanks so much for this reminder not too focus too much on the future. I agree that it’s good to have goals and even to imagine ourselves achieving them. But if it makes us miss today, we really miss out! I needed to hear that, since I definitely get tempted to focus more on the future than the present!

    • Oceana on April 17, 2013 at 8:27 am

    Such an important distinction between using goals as a distraction from fully experiencing and enjoying the present moment, to utilizing goals as a container for desires. Love it! There is indeed a fine balance that I think we learn over time. First we learn to set goals and work towards them, and then we can learn to let go the reins a bit and enjoy the journey. Thank you for this article. It gives me pause to consider the important distinctions!

    • Corinne Rodrigues on April 17, 2013 at 8:28 am

    I have learned too to give up on goals and not in a negative way – I totally get what you mean. Living in the present sometimes is sacrificed at the altar of our goals!

    • Tonya@ The Dieter's Academy on April 17, 2013 at 10:41 am

    Brett – I believe goal setting helps us to think about where we are in life and where we want to go. It is important to strive for the things we want, and I agree – it is healthier if we don’t connect our joy to the result of the goal. If we don’t succeed, we should reassess whether the goal was realistic, and then try try again.

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