It has been a while since if have posted. Since May when I posted about Goals being for the future. Clarification from the blog post. I am not against goal setting. Just know what you are doing and be aware that you are potentially creating a situation to feel bad.
Dealing with Uncertainty
Have you ever had to deal with an uncertain situation? Think about your life, right now, what are you not certain about? Sometimes dealing with uncertainty can feel really difficult. The unknown is one of the scariest prospects of life. One of the worst part about the unknown is that it is not known! You don’t know what is going to happen next.
The unknown is especially difficult when dealing with something you care about. Your significant other tells you something vague that means something to your relationship, your child is struggling in school or the bad
economy hurts your job. All situations that can lead to uncertainty.
Virginia Satir to Richard Bandler*
“You know, Richard, most people think the will to survive is the strongest instinct in human beings, but it isn’t. The strongest instinct is to keep things familiar.”
Striving to keep things familiar can lead to a lot of bad behavior that does not suit you. That could be over eating to fill the hole in your heart, shying away from your loved ones, closing yourself off or even the final solution, when everything seems hopeless suicide.
The illusion of certainty
The mistake that you have made in the past is that you believe there is certainty in your life. The reality of the situation is you do not know what is going to happen next. You never know what is going to happen next. Everything can be going just fine, in your opinion, and then BAM everything is falling apart.
Think about it. There is nothing in your life that you know for certain will work out. There is nothing in your life that you can be certain about.
Change is the only constant in this world. The more you embrace change and give up the illusion of being certain, the better you can flow through life. The better you can handle situations that do not go as well as you planned. Learn from your mistakes, celebrate your victories, celebrate your mistakes as they will allow you to grow, and learn from your victories as you want to recreate them again. Give up the illusion of certainty and you will be able to move through life with amazing grace.