Continue reading »]]> I have to share a video with you that I listened to this weekend. The video is from Brene Brown in the Ted Talks Houston. The talks about her studies on shame and what it means.

One of the greatest points is talk about how to be kind to yourself before you are kind to others. Because you cannot be kind to others and if you are not kind to yourself. Plus the beauty of vulnerability. One of the things I have worked on for many years is being more vulnerable. Sometimes it has been a struggle to break down the walls, however every time I am more vulnerable I celebrate. One of the benefits is each time I get hurt and angry, I get to celebrate me being more vulnerable because before I wouldn’t be vulnerable enough to be hurt or angry. That allows me to go to on to next step and go beyond.

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During the political season with the voting and the what not, it is hard to not notice how everyone loves to find someone to blame for today’s problem. It could be with the Republicans putting Hitler mustaches on Obama and blaming him for the economy. You can also look at the Occupy Wall Street movement that is going on right now and notice how some of them blame the 1% for all of life’s problem, while the 1% blame the 99%’s problem on blaming the 1%.

Myself, I am not too interested in who to blame for life’s problem. When looking at my life and figuring out whose fault it was for any of my predicaments, can only get me so far. Finding who is at fault doesn’t change it and it doesn’t get anything accomplish. Unless the guy hit my car and has good insurance.

Living a life of blame is living a life where you allow people to dictate your life and your moods. It is time to stop the blame and start the creating the life you want to live. You can do it! I believe in you. Blame is a very low vibrational energy. Spending too much time in blame will cause you to be weak and even feel weak. Raise your vibration. You have the power to change your life. (See what I did there? If you didn’t, look to the right of the page.)

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Continue reading »]]> One aspect of business writing I have noticed is the enjoyment some people have for dismissing the Law of Attraction in business. I have read a few business blogs that mention that the Law of Attraction does not work in business because you need to do more than sit on your couch wishing for your business to be successful. When I was researching coaching a few years ago I got a book called, “Getting Started in Personal and Executive Coaching,” I remember a passage about coaches mistakenly relying on the Law of Attraction.

Blogs and books that mention not using the Law of Attraction in business are mistaken. The Law of Attraction can be very helpful in business. These authors are mistaking the Law of Attraction for wishful thinking. They make it seem like the Law of Attraction is me sitting on my couch, visualizing what I want and then having the item poof into my existence. This is a pretty decent explanation of the Law of Attraction. The poof into existence part though is not just having the item appear out of nothing. The poof into existence is me taking steps based on inspired actions. The Law of Attraction can be broken down into three parts. They are focusing on what you want, feeling the best you can about what you want and taking the inspired actions. When your thoughts and emotions are lined up with what you want magic happens. This is very helpful if you are an entrepreneur. Working on your own is much easier when you are inspired. When you are inspired you do not have to motivate yourself to do the actions necessary for your business to succeed. They just flow naturally. When you are inspired you are no longer working. Instead your job becomes your play. How is having your job be your play not helpful for your business?

5 tips for starting your business

The thought of starting your business can be very daunting. You want to keep your thoughts and your emotions lined up with what you desire for your business. Here are some processes if you are not feeling into full emotional alignment with your business.

1. Play the “wouldn’t it be nice” game. When first starting a business it is easier to focus on what you do not have instead of looking at what you do have or want for your business. It can be very daunting to look into the future at all of the things you want when you have so little. Tell yourself or write a list of what you want and start each sentence with “Wouldn’t it be nice.” This will help align your emotions into what you want. Just telling yourself what you want could cause you to feel negative emotions, however, you cannot feel the negative emotions when you say, “Wouldn’t it be nice.” How can you argue the fact that “Wouldn’t it be nice” if you had great things happen for your business? You can’t.
2. Positive aspects. Writing down the positive aspects of your chosen business and your ability to perform will focus yourself on what you want and help you feel positive emotions for your goal. When writing down the positive aspects, just write down the positive aspects. Do not justify or apologize for them. Write them down as positive as you can.
3. Scripting. Just like you are a movie producer and your business is your movie, script how it is going to go down. The more emotions and descriptive words you use in your scripting, the more powerful your script will be. You can script what you do each day as you get up and/or you can write one big script on how the next year is going to go. This is a fun exercise.
4. Gratitude. Write a gratitude journal for your business or write down five things you have gratitude about when you wake up. When you focus on gratitude, you are training yourself to focus on what you want and how to feel better about your day. Doing this will help put you in a position to receive inspirations for your business.
5. No plan B. Eliminate your plan B’s. A plan B will only divide your focus into two different directions, with one direction getting the more positive of the focus. Remember the Law of Attraction works with focusing on what you want and feeling great about what you want. When you have a plan B your positive focus is on plan B because you believe that plan B can happen. When you have a plan B you are going to attract plan B into your reality. Instead of inspirations happening for your business, they will happen for your plan B. I’m not saying you should quit your day job. Make having a day job while you are building your business part of plan A.

5 tips for keeping in the flow

Once you feel great about your business it is ideal to keep yourself in the flow. Events will happen and sometimes those events will cause you to feel negative emotions about your business. Here are five easy Law of Attraction tips that will help you keep in the flow for your business. Spending a few minutes each day on one or more of these tasks will help you stay in that positive flow.

1. Celebrate your victories. Sometimes it is too easy to look at what is going wrong with your business. When you celebrate your victories you will keep focus on what is going right about your business. Remember, if you celebrate every little thing then your life will be one big celebration. Also celebrating is fun and feels good.
2. Future celebration letter. You do not have to wait for the positive event to happen to celebrate it. When you know what you want you can celebrate it before it even comes to you. Send a friend a celebration letter for your business from the future. It is a good idea to tell your friend beforehand. Make this friend a future celebration buddy. Send each other celebration letters back and forth and amazing things will happen.
3. Affirmations. Affirmations best serve you when you are already feeling good. Creating affirmations for your business when you are already in the flow will help you stay within the flow. Plus you will be focusing yourself on the you that you know you are. You will reprogram your brain for success while feeling great.
4. Visualize your ideal business. Visualization also works better when you are already feeling good about your business. When you visualize while you feel in the flow you will not feel the negative emotion that can happen when you are not feeling at your best. Also visualization is much more fun when you are feeling in the flow of your business.
5. Rampage of Appreciation. Rampages of appreciation are one of the most fun things you can do to help your business. The rampages of appreciation are based on two parts. The first part is the appreciation. You talk to yourself, a mirror or a friend about what you appreciate about your business. What do you love about doing your business? How does it feel when you connect to your customers? Say all of them that come to your mind. The second part is the rampage. This is an explosion of appreciation. Keep going for a few minutes mentioning all of the aspects of your business that you appreciate. Project out the positive feelings the best you can. The more you rampage the better you feel. When you finish your body will be buzzing with pleasure about your business.

These ten tips are just a small sample on how the Law of Attraction can help your business. After you go through the processes you will notice that you will get ideas about your business. The follow through with these ideas will be easier than you have ever experienced. You will change your perspective from motivating yourself through a fear of failure to inspiring yourself with the joy of fun. Your business success will improve and you will enjoy doing it. Remember, life, even the business aspect of it,is meant to be enjoyed.

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Continue reading »]]> The Law of Attraction has many amazing aspects that work well with living in your daily life. In my path as a spiritual life coach, I use many of them every day. I work to deepen them and learn the lessons that come from them. The Law of Attraction is not only a good law to manifest what you want, it is also a good way to learn lessons on how to live your life. This is one of the blogs that discusses how I put the Law of Attraction into action in my daily life.

Spiritual Life Coach Tip on Law of Attraction: Listening to the Whispers

As mentioned in the previous blog on the Law of Attraction, the Law of Attraction is the most effective when you are living your life through inspiration. Living your life through inspiration means that you have let go of the resistance to what you desire, thus bringing your desire into your reality. What does it mean to live your life through inspiration?

Inspiration is when you are listening to that little voice in the back of your mind. It is the whisper of consciousness that you interpret. Generally you interpret the stream of consciousness through a voice, which is why I call it a whisper. This whisper is your higher self, source, the Universe, God, and even your subconscious communicating with you. The whisper is of a greater consciousness than you are experiencing on a daily basis. The whisper understands more about the world around you than you do consciously. When you listen to the whisper and do the actions of the whisper then you are acting on inspiration.

Train yourself to listen to the whispers.

To be able to listen to the whispers, you have to be in a state where you are of little resistance. This can be either without thought or full of positive thoughts. That is why when you meditate sometimes you get thoughts you would never have before. Another time is when you are about to sleep. You have probably noticed that sometimes when you are half asleep you get an amazing idea or solution to a problem you have been facing. Sometimes the message comes when you are asleep and then when you wake up, you notice that you have had this amazing idea.

The message does not have to come when you are asleep. The more you are feeling joyful and thinking positive thoughts the more times you will experience listening to the whispers. Soon the whispers will be a stream of consciousness that you listen to all of the time.

Joyful Transition

Sometimes when you are done with your current position in life you can hear the whispers starting. You may be done with your current vocation or relationship. Sometimes there is a lesson for you to learn. For me it was letting go. This is when listening to the whispers allows for a joyful transition. The whispers will come when you are stagnate and when it is time to expand beyond who you currently believe you to be. When the whispers first occur they will be subtle. The more you ignore the whispers the louder they will become. They will get louder until you are feeling the serious discord between who you are and who you know yourself to be.
Training yourself to listen to the whispers will allow you to go through a joyful transition as you are always becoming what you have already grown into.

What has been your loudest whisper?

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Continue reading »]]> The Law of Attraction has many amazing aspects that work well with living in your daily life. In my path as a spiritual life coach, I use many of them every day. I work to deepen them and learn the lessons that come from them. The Law of Attraction is not only a good law to manifest what you want, it is also a good way to learn lessons on how to live your life. This is one of the blogs that discusses how I put the Law of Attraction into action in my daily life.

Spiritual Life Coach Tip on Law of Attraction: Turning Motivation into Inspiration

Motivation and inspiration are two different things. Motivation is when you try to get yourself to do something that you do not want to do. Inspiration is when you do something because you feel inspired to do it. The Law of Attraction works by you focusing on what you want and reducing the resistance to it. When you try to motivate yourself to do something you are actually pushing against what you desire. Often times when you motivate yourself, you actually insult yourself into doing the actions to get what you desire. A good example of people doing this is losing weight. The motivational style of losing weight is to look at yourself in the mirror, tell yourself how fat you are and then get on the treadmill.
The problem with motivation is that once the motivational aspect of what you desire is gone then you will stop the desired actions to get what you want. For instance, you look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how fat you are and in a few months you lose 20 to 30 pounds. Looking at yourself in the mirror you feel good about how you look. The motivation of looking fat is gone. Then you either go back to your old habits because you don’t have the motivation anymore or you find another way to punish yourself into getting what you want.
Another way you may motivate yourself is to trick yourself into doing the correct action. Such as, setting your clock to a different time than the actual time. This way you are treating yourself as a child and you lose a little respect for yourself each time you do this. Since you know that you are tricking yourself, you are not actually tricking yourself. You are just telling yourself that you do not trust yourself and creating a childish game for you to do the actions that you want to do.

Motivation isn’t all bad of course. Motivation is a good way to begin because it is always spawned by what you do not want. As discussed in a previous blog, what you do not want is a good way to discover what you do want. When you discover what you do not want and you will feel the motivation to do the action to get away from what you do not want.

Inspiration is when you feel like you have to do something. You get those impulses that tell you to do an action and doing those actions feel so good. That is the basis of getting what you want with the Law of Attraction. The Law of Attraction is not about feeling good, sitting on your couch doing nothing and then having what you want appear magically. The Law of Attraction is about moving you from the motivational mindset to the inspirational mindset. Then when you figure out your desires, you clean up your resistance to it and feel the inspiration to take the right actions. Going back to the weight loss example, when you are inspired and thinking about how good it feels to work out and get healthier, you notice that there is an aerobics or sports class that you enjoy. Instead of tricking yourself to go to the classes, you will be drawn to them to the point where it is easier to go than not go. You will not feel like you are trying to lose weight, instead you will feel like you are playing. Living life through inspiration turns life into an amazingly fun game. Motivation is work and inspiration is playing. You will play every day of your life when you live an inspired life. Feeling the best you can about any situation and cleaning up your resistance will allow you to turn your motivations into inspiration.

What inspired step have you taken towards your desire?

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Continue reading »]]> The Law of Attraction has many amazing aspects that work well with living in your daily life. In my path as a spiritual life coach, I use many of them every day. I work to deepen them and learn the lessons that come from them. The Law of Attraction is not only a good law to manifest what you want, it is also a good way to learn lessons on how to live your life. This is one of the blogs that discusses how I put the Law of Attraction into action in my daily life.

Spiritual Life Coach Tip on Law of Attraction: Learning to Let Go

If there has ever been a principle of the Law of Attraction that has been beaten in my brain repeatedly it is letting go. Letting go of my desires has been kind of difficult. The main reason it is hard is because I want my desires to actually happen. I have many hopes and dreams that I want to manifest into my reality. Yet the more I held onto my hopes and dreams, the less chance they would manifest.

I have been getting a lot of synchronistic, coincidence in time, events that constantly would tell me that I needed to learn to let go. I would be driving in the city looking for a parking spot. Right when I gave up and let go of my desire for a free parking spot or a parking spot in that area, someone would come out to the car in the parking spot right in front of me. It was so uncanny. It started with parking spots, and then it happened with money. When I gave up on the money I needed being there, I got 5 messages about sources of income, including one that is going to provide a stable one. It is honestly amazing me how much the Universe wants me to learn letting go at this moment in time.

The reason why letting go is so important because when you do not let go you put much focus on what you do not have and too much energy into trying to get what you desire.

<h2>Not here yet</h2>
By holding on to my desire so strongly, I was putting an emphasis on the fact that I did not have what I desired. When the focus was on wanting the desire to happen, I would attract myself to situations and events that were me wanting the desire to happen. The desire would never actually get to me because I would keep on attracting wanting the desire to happen. I was getting exactly what I had my focus on; the desire being there and me not having it. This led to negative emotions and thoughts which are the resistance to having what I wanted to manifest into my reality. The harder I held on to my desires the more resistance I created. Letting go of my desire would allow me to feel more positive emotions, thus removing the resistance to what I desire.

<h2>Too much energy on desire</h2>

I was putting too much energy into trying to get what I wanted. I would act based on the negative emotions that I was feeling. Working this way took a lot of energy. It was like I was peddling my canoe upstream. The more energy I would put into getting my desires, the more tired I became. This would make me feel tired and I would forget about the excitement I have on my desires. Nothing allows me to manifest my desires faster than having excitement for them. Losing the excitement would cause negative emotion, thus giving me resistance to my desires.

<h2>Let go and trust</h2>

Trusting that a desire will happen when the desire isn’t happening can be a struggle. It is just so easy to focus on the fact that the desire hasn’t happened yet. That is just lazy thinking. I do not want to take the easy way out. Focusing on what I want and knowing that I already have it takes some time and effort. Doing it is worth it. Letting go and trusting that the actions I am taking when I am inspired will move me closer to my desires allows me to not use too much energy when I do act. This is like I am peddling downstream. An example of this is blogging. During my early days of blogging for my business, I was peddling upstream. Each blog took over two hours to write and I would feel spent when the post was finally complete. I would post them and put a lot of energy wishing they would drive traffic to my site. When that didn’t happen, I would be crushed and my energy for writing blogs wavered. When I started to blog downstream, the joy of blogging and building relationships with amazing people like you, became the reason I blogged. Now I am writing blogs in 30 minutesand I am having fun. I can write multiple blogs on the same day. Also, at the beginning, I thought I would run out of ideas. Now I have more ideas than I do time to write them. I am enjoying the process of blogging now. I trust that my blogs will move me to the next step for my desires towards my business in ways that I hope and in ways that I cannot even imagine.

Trusting in yourself and the Law of Attraction is the best way to let go. Just let go and trust that you are receiving the right inspiration.
What do you need to let go of in order to manifest your desires?

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Continue reading »]]> The Law of Attraction has many amazing aspects that work well with living in your daily life. In my path as a spiritual life coach, I use many of them every day. I work to deepen

them and learn the lessons that come from them. The Law of Attraction is not only a good law to manifest what you want, it is also a good way to learn lessons on how to live your life. This is one of the blogs that discusses how I put the Law of Attraction into action in my daily life.

Spiritual Life Coach Tip on Law of Attraction: Loving the Events

that Happen

As discussed in my post on the Eight Keys for a Joyous Life Moving From Joy to Joy, there is a Law of Attraction principle about liking the events that happen in your life. Adopting the principles of the Law of Attraction has given me a different perspective about the what has happened in my life. Every event that happens in my life has happened. Some of them I do like and some of them I do not like. I will always have preference because I will always have some kind of ego. I cannot control the world around me; however I can control what they mean to me. No matter what happens, everything goes through a filter in my brain. That is why I can look at a situation in a completely different way than someone else who sees the exact situation. The Law of Attraction has done wonders with the idea that the things I do not want to happen spawn the desires for what I do want to happen.

The Law of Attraction is about noticing what you want and then removing the resistance to it. Resistance is negative thoughts and emotion. If you want something and you think about how you cannot get it and have negative emotions when you even think about what you want, then there is little chance that you are going to get it.

The beauty of the events that I do not like is that they show me what I do want. No matter what happens in my life there is always going to be an event that I do not like. When an event happens that I dislike, there is another event that happens in my mind. I create a desire for something that I do want. Without having events I do not want happening new desires would almost never be created. Without new desires there is stagnation. Stagnation is something I do not like, so even without living a life without events that I do not like happening, I would be lead to an event of something I do not like.

Using that principle of the Law of Attraction I am able to look at my life with a new perspective. The events that happen in my life that I do not like actually create more desires for what I do want. Then I work on removing the negative emotion from that event and I manifest what I do want. The more undesirable events that happen, the more negative emotions I clear up and the more I manifest. The more I manifest, the more I expand. Since I work with expanding through joy, I go through a constant joyous expansion. Therefore, with this perspective, I am able to enjoy the events that I do not like because they are essential to my joyous expansion.

Finally, I am able to love the events that happen in my life.

The journey is half the fun, together we’ll nab it. Just reach out and grab it.

-Kermit the Frog and Fozzie the Bear

How have events that you do not like caused

you to grow as a human being in an amazing way?

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Continue reading »]]> About a month ago I made a blog post about three perspectives on living with integrity. I believe integrity is very important. Integrity is essential if you have any leadership position.

3 Perspectives on Integrity

1. Integrity with others. When you tell the truth with others people respect you. If you lie and you get caught in your lies people lose trust in you. Your word is your bond.
2. Integrity with yourself. Same with other people if you lie to yourself you will not believe yourself. Tell yourself that you are going to start working out and then you do not work out, you are not going to believe yourself the next time you tell yourself you are going to work out.
3. Integrity with how you feel. When you are not in integrity with your emotions people just do not trust you. They might not be able to put a finger on it, however they will just feel that you are untrustworthy.

Develop these three integrity perspectives and you will become a natural leader.

How are you out of integrity with yourself? What action are you going to do to correct it?

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Continue reading »]]> Integrity is important if you want to live a joyful life. Having integrity means that you are living with a steadfast adherence to your strict moral and ethical code. If you are going to be a leader then having integrity is essential. It is hard to trust people who do not display integrity. Since we are all leaders in at least one way, integrity is a very important inner way of being intention for you to write. Especially since one of the people you have to lead is you. It all starts with you.

This blog series will be about three different perspectives of integrity. The third perspective is integrity with how you feel and who you are.

This perspective of integrity is one that is kind of sneaky. Having unconditional love for yourself is being able to accept yourself no matter how you are feeling at any given moment. This is very apparent in the spiritual movement. I have had conversations with spiritual people on how anger is not spiritual. This causes spiritual people to deny their true feelings and come out of integrity with how they are feeling at that moment. Not being integral with how you feel causes people to not trust you and also causes you to bury feelings instead of dealing with them.
It is like my favorite quote:

It is not that you must be free from fear. The moment you try to free yourself from fear, you create a resistance against fear. Resistance in any form doesn’t end fear. What is needed rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance is understanding fear; that means watch it; learn about it; come directly into contact with it.

-J. Krishnamurti

Feelings are just reactions to your outside or inside world. They are triggered. Disposing of all your negative emotions would be like getting rid of pain. Getting rid of pain might sound good on paper; in reality without pain you wouldn’t know when you were hurting yourself. You might just keep your hand on the stove allowing it to burn. That is what you are doing when you numb yourself or deny your negative emotions. You have triggers in your mind and when they are triggered you feel bad. To deny yourself from feeling that way is like keeping your hand on the stove telling yourself that it is fine for your hand to be cooked.

It is my belief that this is why people like to believe that being joyful is not being authentic. It is true that not feeling your emotions will cause people to not trust you as who would trust someone who keeps their hand on the stove and tells people that they are fine. Things happen. It is OK to be sad.
The problem arises when you stay in that negative feeling. The feeling exists. Experience it, learn from it and let it go. Living this way will allow you to live with more joy and more people will trust you.

My Inner Way of Being Intention:

I experience, learn from and release all my emotions while living my ideal life.

What is your inner intention on being truthful with how you feel?

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