Mar 30

Do Not Let Social Anxiety Hold You Back

Do you have a dream? A passion? Do you let social anxiety hold you back?

If you can answer yes to all those questions then you are in the same boat as me.

I am someone who has experienced social anxiety since I was eight years old. The best way I could explain the experience is to imagine every time you go outside that everyone is paying attention to you. Not only are they paying attention to you, they are judging ever action that you do. And every action you make is wrong.

Social anxiety has kept me from a lot of good experiences over the years. Especially when it comes to running a business. I love helping people. I love inspiring people. I love working with my clients. Unfortunately, all of the activities it gets to clients triggers my social anxiety. Yes, I know trigger can be a trigger word for some people. Networking, calling up prospecting clients, and even discussing my business felt draining and left me feeling empty.

When I felt empty it would lead me to a cycle of feeling pumped about my business, doing all the activities I can to build it, and then feeling empty so I take a huge break.

In the last year and a half, I have done a lot of soul-searching and research on how to break myself of that habit. And I am here, right now ready to create the best 2017 ever!

I want to take you with me. You have followed me for a while now and I am so thankful for your support. My gift to you is a complimentary session Kick Social Anxiety In The Butt Session where we will shine Alight on your roadblocks, create clarity on your passion, have a plan for your dream, and feel energized and renewed for an amazing 2017!

If you are interested in such a session, please reply back. I am excited to work with you and help you create the best year of your life.

I know what it is like. I have been in the trenches and I have gotten myself out of it. I will love to help you succeed! Much love to you my friend!

Be Love
Be Joy
Be Awesome

Mar 23

Are You a Natural Entrepreneur?

Are you natural at selling? Do you find being an entrepreneur comes naturally to you? Does the act of networking, public speaking, and prospecting new clients fill you with joy?

If your answer is no to any of those questions, you are not alone. I have a confession to make. I am not a natural entrepreneur.

I have had a few coaches in my time to help me through the struggle of building a business. They keep on using metaphors such as, “You are either a government worker or an entrepreneur.” or calling people who aren’t muggles, like in the movie Harry Potter. There I was sitting in the seat thinking to myself, “I am a government working muggle.”

A Ravenclaw/Slytherin Muggle Quidditch game pl...

A Ravenclaw/Slytherin Muggle Quidditch game played between Millikin University students. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

E-mailing my newsletter, booking speaking events, networking, book selling, and marketing do not come naturally to me. In fact, for the longest time, these activities would drain me and cause me to want to quit. However, I cannot quit because I have a passion and love what I do.

So the question I had is what do I do about not being a natural?

The answer changed my mindset. When you get your mindset around your desires, you can move mountains. There is nothing you cannot accomplish when you get in the right frame of mind. In fact, selling and marketing are skills. If they can be skills, they can be learned. You just need to get in the mindset where you are open and willing to learn and willing to suck at it when you are starting out. As Jake the Dog said in Adventure Time, “Sucking at something is the first step to being kind of good at it.”

One way I have changed my mindset around is using my
Emotion Elation Engine. A course that is designed to use visualization and anchoring from NLP to align your emotions with your desires. I have used this technique help me get excited about networking and make sure the experience does not leave me feeling empty. In fact, it has helped me turn my business to leaving me empty to leaving me elated! Because of the Emotion Elation Engine, I am excited about it.


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Mar 16

More Inspiration From Back Pain

I still appreciate you! I hope your day is going special.

More wisdom from my back pain. The joy of life is that there is a lesson to everything that happens in life.

Two weeks ago, I wrote you about my back pain and how pushing through the pain to alleviate my back pain, was a good metaphor for pushing through the pain of changing your mindset to start a business and live your passions.

In the last month, I have experienced little to no back pain. In fact, when I lay down with my knees on my couch, when I get up, I feel amazing. I am so proud of myself.  However, history has shown me that, this can be a trap.

If I want to keep the back pain away, I should continue to do the exercises. However, if I continue to use pain as a motivator, then I will stop doing the exercises. That is because the pain is gone. Here is another metaphor.

Sometimes in life, pain can get you started, however, the pain is not that great for keeping you going. When you reach the point where you no longer feel the pain or that you are fine with the current level, then you will find it hard to keep going. You can try to remember the pain to the point where you start feeling the pain again. The danger of that is that soon you will associate the action you need to do to improve your life with pain.

For instance, if you are trying to lose weight and you look yourself in the mirror to yell at yourself to the point where you feel bad enough to feel motivated to work out, soon you will associate working out with feeling bad. Then exercise will become a burden and fear will be your motivator.

It does not have to be that way. You can use inspiration and celebration to keep you going. Feel good about where you are and imagine yourself at the finish line having an amazing time. Now when I do my back exercises, I celebrate the fact that my back feels great, that I am becoming more flexible, and I am looking at myself in the future with a strong healthy back.

Remember, when you hit the point where you are starting to feel relief with your change, it is time to switch over to inspiration. Use the joy of accomplishment to keep you excited and loving your goals. Soon, you will see great changes while feeling more joy. Hooray!

Of course, I am using my Emotion Elation Engine to keep me looking forward and feeling great. A course that is designed to use visualization and anchoring from NLP to align your emotions with your desires. I have used this technique to go from being afraid to speak in public, to enjoy speaking in public.


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Much love to you, my friend! Keep on living your dreams and creating a Joyous Expansion by being a beacon of hope to the people around you. I am proud of you and your positive actions.




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