One of the main faults of adults is that they take life so seriously. There are many things in life to take seriously, like doing a good job at work and providing for their family. There are many more things not to take seriously. One thing humans enjoy doing is looking for reasons to feel bad, even in personal development. Personal development is one area where you should take yourself less seriously. When you take yourself too seriously you have a greater chance of creating more reasons to feel bad. I have heard the saying, “Life is not a game.” I say, “Why not? Games are fun.”
g to Abraham has taught me two important lessons in life. 1) Life is meant to be enjoyed and 2) do not create new reasons to feel bad.
Self help is an area where people love finding new reasons to feel bad. An example of this is positive thinking. A vast majority of self help books include the power of positive thinking. In fact there is a book called The Power of Positive Thinking
One of the dangers of just positive thinking is that there is a chance of using positive thinking as a reason to feel bad. An example of this could be practicing positive thinking for a few weeks and not noticing any changes. If immediate results aren’t seen then having the thought that positive thinking is horse pucky or cannot help. People can also get upset with themselves every time they have a negative thought. This totally negates the whole point of positive thinking. If you think of a positive thought as matter and negative thoughts as anti-matter then positive thinking works by the person having the negative thought and then they use the positive thought to cause a matter anti-matter explosion. This sends the positive energy throughout the body and totally destroys the negative thought. What people do instead is think the negative thought, then think negatively about the negative thought and then think the positive thought. Some of the negativity still remains and they wonder why it isn’t working for them. They also like thinking more negative thoughts about that as well.
Another way people in self help LOVE to make them feel bad is with the ego. Look out for the Joyous Expansions take on the ego here soon.
When you are tense you create a wall that does not let in goodness. It is like you are the starship Saddy and your forward shields are deflecting the smile rays being shot by the Happylons. Yes I realize that was super corny. Seeing the humor in what you are doing is a great way to create space to let in the goodness of life. Either see the joy of what you are doing or the results you are going to accomplish. You can also fake it a little. Smiling has a lot of positive effects. Laughing is also a great way to help with your personal development.
Looking at yourself and thinking about why you are on this journey is extremely important. Are you on this planet to enjoy yourself, live the best life you can, and be excellent example ? Or are you going to be someone who uses personal development as a reason to feel bad, look for new reasons to feel bad?
Here are some tips to help bring joy in your personal development:
1.Laugh and smile about it. The more you laugh the more you will learn to love yourself.
2.Relax. Taking deep belly breaths are good ways to relax when things feel like they are just not working out for you.
3.Look at where you are going. Looking at the end point is a good way of keeping you on track. Especially if you are not where you want to be at a given point.
4.Let it go. There might be days when you do not feel as good as you would like or that a problem that you thought you were over pops back up. If you are on a journey of self-development then you have picked up some tools to help you on days like this.. Being upset about a bad day would just exacerbate the problem.
5.Remember why you are doing it. Never forget the values and the reasons why. Joy is a fun way to live. Being happy feels so good. It will make the quality of your life better.
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