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Joy Increasing Action Tip #1:

Music is an awesome motivator. Even if music isn’t one of your major loves, there is nothing that can pump you up more than the right song. I know for myself, I would never say one of my main loves is music. However there are songs that bring me into a good mood.

When you are feeling blue, crank out a song and you will feel awesome again. The right song just touches your emotions and kicks it into high gear. Do not underestimate the power of a good song.

One of my favorite songs to pump me up is, “You’re the Best” by Joe Esposito from the Karate Kid Soundtrack. One of the cheesiest songs I have ever heard, however how can you not listen to this song and get pumped up? HOW CAN YOU NOT!? Try it, I dare you. You will listen to this song and then run a marathon.

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Continue reading »]]> A year ago I wrote a blog post about the 8 keys to living a joyful life. Any life coach worth their salt has keys to life that they believe in. They are even better when they are in list form. Lists are fun to read as they are to make. If you live these eight keys you will live a happy life, no doubt about it. This blog post is going to put them all on one list for easy access.

Spiritual Life Coach: 8 Keys to Living a Joy Filled Life

1. Find your placebo. Different ideas make different people happy. That is why there are so many self help books saying practically the same message. Each person has their own perspective on life, which causes different messages to speak with different people. With that in mind, find the message that speaks to you.
2. Be positively selfish. Put your joy and well being in front of all others. When you do this you will have more to give. When you try to serve someone from lack you are not really serving them. A lot of times you are just piling  your baggage on top of theirs. Look at Mother Teresa as an example. She did not help people to fill an empty hole in her heart. She helped people because she believed she was doing God’s work. Doing the work of her God she was filled with joy.
3. Receive abundance. You deserve to be happy and live with joy. Practice receiving joy and abundance. When people say nice things about you, say “thank you.” Allowing you to receive will allow you to give much more. Allow yourself to receive will bring a lot of joy into your life.
4. Clarify and live your purpose. Having a purpose statement that helps keep you on track feels so good. Reading a statement that signifies what you are looking for in life is just amazing. Your purpose is the essence of who you are and your actions are the expression of that purpose. Your purpose is the sweet sound that calls the young sailor, from the song The Rainbow Connection.
5. Move from joy to joy. Shift your perspective that all things happen. When something happens that you do not like, learn from it. When something happens that you do like, learn from it. Life is growth. You are always changing. Might as well enjoy the change. Failure is a human concept and eliminating the idea from your mind will allow you to move from joy to joy. Life is an amazing series of lessons. Your perspective is how you decide how much you enjoy the perspective. Plus the contrast of life is what causes you to expand. Enjoying the contrast allows you to live a more joyful life.
6. Give up the illusion of being done. Part 1. Part 2. Life is growth. Give up the illusion of being done. There is no done. There is only growth.  Giving up the illusion of being done has so many perspectives. For one believing that you are done with an old pain can cause a lot of stress if you are triggered again. Giving up the illusion of being done allows you to let go when those old triggers occur again. Another perspective is the idea that when you reach your goal then you will be happy. Getting to the goal is not being done because there is always a new goal and a lot of the time the goal you just reach will have to expand to feel satisfying. A good reason to move from joy to joy. The journey is the fun.
7. Love unconditionally. People are doing the best they can with what they are presented with. Love them. Remember you can love them from a different house or state. The more you love the more you are filled with love.
8. Celebrate!! When you celebrate the little things in life, then life is one big celebration. Celebrating your life feels so good. Remember that your life is filled with many victories. Too many times you keep on looking to the future without celebrating everything you have accomplished to this point. Celebrate your life!

With the eight keys you can live a happy joyful life. Make the decision to put the eight keys to living a joyful life in your life today!

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Continue reading »]]> I am always excited when I find a practice that I enjoy using for myself. When I am living with more joy, everything in my life is just working out for the better. For the last two weeks I have been using the ABC game explained below by Esther Hicks who is channeling Abraham. Esther Hicks whose newest book is, Money and the Law of Attraction.

This game has been fantastic for me. I have been using this game every night before I go to sleep. What I like to do is to think of a word, I create a sentence that uses that word in a positive sense. Sometimes while doing this my mind will go off onto a tangent. When I do I just pick up right back where I left off and keep on going.

I have noticed when I do this I am getting better sleep at night and my dreams have been really positive. I love assigning fun homework assignments to my clients and I am really looking forward to assigning this one to see how much they like it.

Here is an example of me playing the game.

Wow what a feeling doing that game was during the day. I might be doing it more now. That was so much fun. I would love to see your video of you doing the ABC game.

I highly recommend you try this game out for a couple of weeks. Come back and comment on what it has done for you.

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Continue reading »]]> Here is a joy meditation I made. It is a rough draft, however it will give you an idea of what is going to be on my future CD. Tell me what you think!

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I really enjoyed making the meditation. I felt so good while doing it.

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Continue reading »]]> In my previous written blog I wrote about taking my stress and changing what it means to me. The intention is really good and has made a lot of positive changes in my life.

“I joyous relish each opportunity to grow myself as an Awakener, for the benefit of all beings.”

This intention has spawned an idea for another intention as I look at the situation from a different perspective.

Living from the inside out

Changing the way I look at stress is an amazing intention and it does not deal with the entire spectrum. For the intention I wrote last week to be sparked something has to happen to me. That lowers the effectiveness of this intention. I am not going to throw away last week’s intention as it is extremely helpful. What I am going to do is create another intention that will work from the inside out. Instead of waiting for an opportunity I am going to write an intention based on the way I want to behave.

That is the beauty of writing intentions in a joyous manner is that they spark other intentions. Each intention that you will write for a something you want in reality or how you react to a situation will have a counter part for how you want to behave. Every time you write an intention that is from the outside in, you will be discovering an intention that you can write that is from the inside out. The more you write from how you want to be, the more you will discover amazing changes in your life.

Amazing change

An example of an amazing change that happened in my life that was a byproduct of my intention writing process was when I let go of my social cup. I used to have mental social cup. When I was out with people I could feel this cup fill up. When it was full, I was done with being social and I had to empty the cup again by spending time alone. This made it hard to be social. I would be having a lot of fun at a party and then my cup would fill up. When that happened it didn’t matter how much fun I was having, I would feel anxiety, self-conscious and want to leave the situation as fast as I could.

I remember one day when I was home alone, I noticed that my social cup was gone. While I was working from the inside out, without even noticing, I let the social cup go. Now I can spend a lot of time with people and just have a good time. I no longer have that mental restriction.

New Inside Out Intention

The intention that I wrote sparks a way that I want to live. The way I want to live is as an Awakener. As a coach I want to awaken you to your true potential. Awaken the part of you that can handle any situation with joy. To awaken your ability to unconditionally love.

I am living my ideal life each day with unconditional love as an amazing Awakener.

Writing the intention down and reading the intention out loud feels so good. I am looking forward to discovering all the amazing changes in my life that are spawned by this intention.

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Discover the power of writing your intentions in a way that makes you feel good. Out now at www.joyousexpansion.com, I just released a FREE eBook that will show you how to write your own intentions. You too can change your life in amazing ways!

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Hello blog readers!

To improve my confidence in public speaking I joined Toastmasters. Toastmasters turned out to be a lot more fun than I imagined. I did not realize how much fun I would have as I improve my ability to public speak.

Here are the first two speeches I wrote for myself. I recorded them as a way to practice the speech. I only did this with the first two speeches. I have done five speeches so far. I will record myself doing the last two for your enjoyment.

This is my Ice Breaker Speech. The whole point of this speech is to get up in front of a crowd and talk about myself. Which I believe I did.

This is the second speech. The second speech in toastmasters is just having to be organized. Having a intro, body and conclusion.

I recommend Toastmasters to anyone who wants to build confidence.

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Continue reading »]]> Recently, I was in a relationship with a woman who I thought was everything I wanted in a woman. I was the luckiest person to be able to attract the amazing woman. All my work on myself was actually paying off. She was almost exactly like the description I wrote down for my perfect relationship. When I was with her I could feel my heart expand and the thought of sharing all of the things I loved with her brought me so much joy. For a few months I felt very loved and the world was a much better place. Then in what felt like a flash, it ended.

When it ended I felt sad. I wasn’t going to be able to have all those wondrous feelings anymore and the future that I planned wasn’t going to happen. I experienced a huge sense of loss. I felt I might go into despair. Instead of going into despair, a joyous intention I wrote for myself kicked in.

With great and powerful wisdom I release my expectations, learn from all experiences and with joyously wondrous appreciation go where no man has ever gone before.

That is when I released my expectations. I released the story of the future I created and the betrayal I was feeling. I allowed myself to feel the emotions I was feeling and learn from them.

Lessons learned from this heartbreak:

1. I have a deep capacity to feel love. Why let that part of me go just because she was no longer going to be in my life? If I remember the feeling of being with her and taking her out of the equation, then I am able to feel that feeling again. It wasn’t her that brought the feelings out of me; it was my reaction to her. When I was around her I let go of my resistance to feeling that good. Remembering the situation is the same as feeling the feelings again. I do not need her for that. Then next time I am in a relationship I will be able to build on that feeling.
2. I have more contracts of disappointment to break. I noticed more areas where I create contracts of disappointment. This happened when I created certain situations where she would do something and I would be disappointed. I need to rip those puppies up so I do not bring that baggage to my next relationship. To learn more about this subject read the blog on contracts of disappointment.
3. I have more triggers. Triggers are when pains of the past show up in the present. When triggered, I acted like a little boy who was being abandoned again. Learning those triggers allowed me to work with them and release some of my childhood pain and to use it as a positive. I learned to shine my love through those triggers, so I would feel closer rather than run away.
4. Enjoy the moment. The present is all I have. When I created futures and they didn’t happen it caused suffering. Everything ends; enjoying the present moment allows me to enjoy what happens in reality instead of what happens in story.
5. Be myself. I noticed that when I got to the point of being afraid of losing her, I would act like a different person. I wasn’t as strong and I held back more. Instead of saying what was on my mind, I would act like a role instead of being my authentic self. I tried to recapture the past of the man she fell for instead of just being who I am and letting things go as they may. The relationship may have still ended if I was my authentic self, however, I would have more integrity.

Setting the intention to release expectations and learn from all experiences has changed my life. Certain parts of my life that used to be negative have taught me so much about myself. I have found more ways to live joyously through heartache while not denying the fact that I was feeling pain.

You too can learn how writing joyous intentions can change your life. This June I will give you a free eBook that will tell you how to write them and what they can do for you. Live intentionally with purpose and joy!

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Continue reading »]]> The fifth key to living a joyful life is a strategy that allows you to build on all of the other keys.

The fifth key to living a joyful life is moving from joy to joy.

One of the myths that people tend to believe is that the only way they can improve their life is if they are feeling upset with themselves. People use a strategy where they notice they do not enjoy their situation and they do the actions needed to change their lives. The third thing they do is repeat this cycle over and over again. This cycle shows up in relationships, jobs, living situations, and other aspects of people’s lives.

The reason many people continue this cycle is out of spite or anger. When a person does something out of anger, they tend to take all of the problems with them into their next situation.

Imagine a person who is sick of living in Seattle and wants to move to Atlanta. They are entirely sick of Seattle and blame Seattle and its residents for their sad and depressed life. When they are packing their stuff, they take their bitterness, sadness, and thoughts of revenge, their anger andgrudges, and other negative feelings of Seattle with them. After a few months of enjoying their new digs, they unpack their negative feelings. Now the people of Atlanta are the jerks and they will have to move again.

If you are moving from joy to joy, if you do decide to leave Seattle, you will let your baggage go.

Shift your focus, shift your life

To move from joy to joy you must first shift your focus. In the middle of the United States there are huge stretches of road where there is little on the side of the road except telephone poles spaced about every half mile. Statistics show that there are a large number accidents into these telephone poles. The problem is people have a problem when they are driving and looking at the telephone pole and think, “I do not want to crash into the telephone pole.” As they are focusing on the telephone pole they are driving towards the telephone pole and they hit it.

This example appears in other areas of people’s lives. When you focus on how much you hate your job, your coworkers piss you off, your boss is a jerk, you are underpaid and under-appreciated, you put your focus on those negative aspects when you are looking for your new job. Even though you are telling yourself that you want something different, you are focused on what you do not want. You will then find a new job with similar situations and wonder how you did this.

Relationships are an amazing example of this phenomenon as well. Is there someone in your life who keeps dating the same wrong person in a different form? Have you done this?

The way to shift this and escape the cycle is to find the positive aspects of your current situation while focusing on what you want. Do this instead of focusing on what you do not want.

When you are finding the best in your situation, you are shifting your focus into the positive aspects of your life. When you move onto the new situation you leave your baggage behind. When you feel that first sting and realize that you want to leave, that is the time to sit down and write 20 things you like about your situation. If you are living the other keys, you can still be ecstatic about your current situation and realize that it is time to move on. You will be moving towards pleasure instead of moving away from pain. In other words, you would be moving from joy to joy.

When you focus on what you want you will gravitate towards it.. You will look for that great relationship instead of another version of what you just left. You will have your eyes on the road instead of on the telephone pole.

Learn from all situations

An important way to shift your focus is to change the way you look at situations that you find poor. People tend to look at bad situations as ones that stop them from doing things that they want to do in their lives. Some situations take a little more than shifting focus and learning from the situation. You know what they are. People have the ability to generalize situations and blow them out of proportion.

For example, dating is situation where people tend to over generalize and focus on what they do not like in their life. Going on date after date, feeling disappointed when each one doesn’t work out and thinking of dating as a waste of time will not get you your dream relationship. In fact, I have heard many times how when a person gives up on dating and just stops thinking about dating and relationships they end up finding one. This does not surprise me.When the person stops focusing on what they do not want and how they will never find someone they end up finding someone they desire.

Two sayings sum up my point from this section:

1.“Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn.” When you look at aspects of your life that you do not want as learning experiences you no longer beat yourself up. Learning from the situation allows you to increase your knowledge and your chances for success.

2.“Learning what you do not want is just as important as learning what you do want.” When you learn what you do not want, it allows you to focus on what you do want. In fact, I have learned a lot from situations that I do not want. For example, I went on a date with a woman who didn’t like any type of fantasy. She couldn’t watch CSI because it was too unrealistic. I would have never thought to put this on my list of things I want in a woman before I had this date. I am grateful to her for showing me something I do not want and I am focusing on finding a woman who enjoys the fantasy genre.

My Services:

When you live focused on what you want, you are focused on the solutions not the problems. When you focus on problems you will only find more problems. When you focus on a solution, you will find solutions. When you work with me, we will focus on your solutions and together we will create the life that you want.

Homework of the Week

Think of a problem that you have in your life. Write down what you have learned from this problem. Write down what desires have been spawned because of this problem and include aspects of the situation that you enjoy. Write down 10 different solutions to this problem, no matter how silly each solution is.

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