Spiritual Life Coach Tip: Not caring what people think about you
I was sitting outside of a Starbucks enjoying life when a man walks past me and asks me, “How is it going wild man?” I thought nothing of this. My hair is long and it can look wild. I remember a child laughing once and telling her father that my hair looked silly. It was nice that my hair could bring enjoyment to a child.
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Then his friends passed by and told me, “He had no right to call you that.” Then his other friend started to give him a stern lecture for saying that to me. I was very confused. I had no idea what he told me was such an insult.
This incident reminded me that true freedom is the ability for people to tell you anything and for it not to affect you. You might be telling me right now in your head that not being affected by what people say to you is easier said than done. I am here to tell you that it is just as easy said as it is done. Not being affected is all about your belief and the story that you are willing to tell yourself.
When this stranger called me a wild man, I did not make a story on how he was insulting me. That is why it was not an insult. To be insulted I would have to go into my brain and use my past experiences or just use this one and decide that it is an insult. In the previous sentence is the secret to not letting people bother you. I have to go into MY brain and look at MY past experiences or use MY interpretation of the current experience. How I react to that incident was all about me. It had nothing to do with what the man said. He just said a bunch of words. The words are given meaning by ME.
If you are in any incident, then you are the one who creates the meaning for the interaction. It is all about you. You are the one who decides you are insulted. In fact, it is impossible for someone to insult you. You can only insult yourself. They are just saying words, it is you who are taking them personal and using them as an insult.
Just like any new idea, living this way takes practice. It is much easier to let a stranger’s words bounce off than it is someone you care about. If you take the life philosophy that every word is your interpretation of the word you will feel a great weight lift off of your body. You will realize that all this time you have been living in a self created prison of insult. You have the key this entire time to leave and live a much more joyful life.
My Inner Core Intention:
I am living true freedom as love flows through me with every interaction.